With Thanksgiving just around the
corner, families and friends are
preparing to gather together
with a variety of "turkeys" this
year. Ever wonder why some
families get along great
during the holidays and others
feud and fight like bitter
enemies? Are there family members
you just don't understand why they
do what they do?
Personality styles are a
significant component in family
dynamics. Let's find out
why. Using the
D-I-S-C Model of Human
Behavior we find:
"Ds" are Driven,
Determined, Dominant, and
Decisive. They are bosses and
bossy. They want to run the show,
control the situation, and
aggressively pursue
power. Conflict on Thanksgiving
Day for this competitive
personality style would actually
be invigorating, exciting, and the
definition of an interesting
day. Otherwise, insignificant
small talk and chit chat drains a
goal-oriented "D." Engage them in
productive conversations
and challenges instead.
"Is" are
Inspiring, Interactive,
Impressive, and Impulsive. This
people-oriented personality style
desires a Thanksgiving Day full of
fun and excitement with lots of
activity. They'll talk and talk
and talk - all day! They'll have
great stories to tell (sometimes a
wee bit exaggerated) and seek a
plethora of attention. Even though
they'll probably arrive late, you
can get a kick out of their
creative outfits and enjoy their
sense of humor.
"Ss" are Sweet,
Sensitive, Supportive, and
Steady. They love Thanksgiving Day
because they love traditions and
being with family more than
anything else. If "Ds" are causing
conflict, "Ss" are hiding under
the table. This loyal personality
style seeks peace and unity in the
family. Hold the sarcasm and "Ss"
will assist and support all day
long.
"Cs" are
Cautious, Calculating,
Conscientious, and Correct. This
task-oriented personality style
would rather work on a project,
so consider family and food as an
important project for the
day. Work on a puzzle or game -
and refrain from criticism when
things aren't correct. "C"
planners will show up on time,
strive for perfect details and
quality interaction. If you're a
"C," remember to lighten up and
have a little fun.
Thanksgiving is a time for giving
and working together regardless of
personality differences (or
similarities). Nurture a sense of
genuine gratitude for each
personality style in your family.
For people-oriented "Is" and "Ss,"
it's easy to appreciate family.
For "Cs", take a few minutes and
make a list (you'll love that) of
the blessings that come with being
together at this special time of
year. "Ds" - be determined to lead
the way and set a goal to make
great memories.
Be thankful for one another and
say so - you may never get another
chance. If you know someone who
will be alone for the holidays,
make them feel loved by inviting
them to your table this
year. Share the blessings of God's
provisions so richly bestowed upon
you and your loved ones.
Have a great and grateful
Thanksgiving!
